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Mindset training tools include time management tools, submodality changes and visualization, breathing practices, meditation or mindfulness or prayer, swish patterns, mantras, aka chords, anchoring, Time Line Therapy techniques [Time Line Therapy is a registered trademark of Tad James], reframing, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy reflective practices, and journaling. These tools have significant therapeutic applications but can be used by most people to simply create habits, manage your emotions, and create an attitude of a champion. If you have a diagnosed mental health condition you should not be trying to do self-therapy using these tools. You need to seek the help of a professional who can work with you. We do not do therapy. That being said, for a large percentage of people who deal daily with trying to manage negative emotions, limiting decisions... stress, these tools are invaluable to learn to use. You use them to apply HEAT - habit, emotion, attitude, training.
An essential mindset training tool is a time management system and habit. Planning your time is essential. If you are going to budget you finances you need to budget your time. Wealth can be created to mitigate poor budgeting, time cannot. We talk about a system and a habit because you need the habit of looking at your time and planning it, which also requires the habit. It should become part of your morning and evening ritual.
The system is what ever the tools are you use to set goals, prioritize your activities, and then schedule them into your day. There are countless systems out there. I have created my own that modified one Tony Robbins created. I found his to have a significant flaw in that it was designed to only cover work days. I disagree with the idea that you shouldn't "plan" your leisure time. Spontaneity is all well and good, but for most people they also have to plan for other responsibilities. We do have four domains of our lives: personal, professional, civic, and spiritual. If you don't plan your non-professional time you may create unnecessary conflicts.
There is quite a lot to cover in developing the mindset around time management. A really thorough training in these mindset training tools can be its own separate element as you would not only train the habits, emotions, and attitude, you would also might need to acquire some specialized knowledge in part depending on your age and educational background. We actually incorporate some crucial elements in our training on the spirit of a champion.
An essential mindset training tool is to understand how visualization really works. Typically, people are told to visualize and make it real. See yourself in the picture doing the thing you want to have happen. This is all true. You are never taught the key to visualizing is in the characteristics of the visual image - the submodalities. Submodalities are the quality adjectives or descriptors of the image. They include size, color, clarity, closeness to you, whether it is a movie, slideshow, photograph and a host of other descriptors. Discovering your submodalities of the images that have the most emotional impact on your is the key to visualizing well.
Another visualization mindset training tool is the swish pattern. A swish pattern is a process of quickly reframing the meaning of representations you have made inside of yourself – in your memories. It is as simple as change how your brain stores the images, sounds, or feelings and by changing how they are stored you change the meaning. This is a simple and powerful technique that can be used to change values and beliefs.
Of all the mindset training tools, I personally think TLT techniques are the most powerful.
Let me describe to you this idea of a time-line. For your brain to tell the difference between an event that happened yesterday, a year ago, or ten years ago it must somehow store the memory and code it temporally. It does that by creating an internal time-line. There are emotions, images, smells, feelings (not just emotions but actual bodily sensations), tastes, sounds, decisions, and learnings that are associated with these memories. The memories are positive, negative, and neutral. You also have future “memories” on your time-line. As you imagine an event in the future you may have emotions et al attached to that as well. Anxiety is really a future emotion. It is an emotion that is attached to an event that has not yet happened. The wonderful thing is God designed our mind to be able to release the negativity of memories. Time-line therapy techniques happen to be one method for doing that. These techniques are a key element in our mindset training tools.
To release a limiting decision or negative emotion you want to take yourself back to the origin of that emotion or decision. In the case of an emotion the one event that when you release the anger, fear, guilt etc. all that emotion will release from all subsequent memories. You have broken the chain. In the case of a decision, the earliest memory that when we change that decision all the events between then and now change in light of the new decisions and learnings you made today. It can be a very powerful process. If you have any sort of trauma in your life, finding a psychologist or psychiatrist who has training in TLT would be highly recommended. In our case study pages, you can read about the impact these techniques had on some of my clients. Because of results like those, they are the go to mindset training tools in our breakthrough training.
I will give you a description of the process, but you need to understand that you don't really learn to do time line therapy by reading how to do it. The language used is very important being guided through the process by someone trained in it really is important. Once you have been guided through the process and done it to clean up your past, you can probably do it on your own. What follows is a description of the process.
Once you discover the limiting decisions that may be holding you back you need to ask yourself when the root cause of that decision was, the very first event that when you disconnect it will allow you to quickly and easily change all subsequent decisions and change things now. You will need to determine if that root cause was before, during or after you were born. If before was it passed on genealogically or through someone’s past life. [While there are people who believe in reincarnation, as a Christian I do not believe anyone lived a past life. However, I do believe that memories can be passed down not only genealogically but somehow spiritually. We do not really understand where or how or even what memories are. We do know people can have false memories imbedded. We know that you can convince yourself something happened and is true even though it isn’t. We know cells have memory or else scars would not occur. If someone has a memory from a past life the memory is real to them and they may think they actually lived that life. It matters to them and is crucial for being able to make root cause changes.]
You will then need to imagine floating about your time-line and going back to that root cause event all the way back. You will float above the event and notice what is in the event. Then float down inside the event and notice the decision that was made and the learnings you need to preserve in the special place reserved for such learnings. Then float back up about 15 minutes before the event and notice the decision is gone now isn’t it. If it isn’t go a little further up and back in time until the decision is completely gone. Then you float back toward now going only as quickly as you can see how all the other events between then and now begin to change because that decision is gone now, isn’t it. Float back into today. Then imagine a time in the not too distant future where that old decision would have limited you and notice things are different now aren’t they. When you see how different they are float back to today.
That is the same process you use to eliminate negative emotions such as the big three: fear, anger, and guilt. Doing this will go a long way toward helping you not only learn to become more loving but adapt that growth mindset. Once you have experienced letting go of past emotions or decision you will understand why it is one of the most powerful mindset training tools.
The next of the mindset training tools we will look at is called anchoring.
An anchor simply put is a stimulus that triggers and emotional response in you. Smells, music, a touch, just about anything can trigger an emotional response. You probably have a favorite song that brings back powerful memories. Maybe it is a smell like baking bread or roses or a perfume. Anchors are very powerful when we consciously control them. Most of the anchors we have were not some we deliberately chose. Once we identify our anchors we can reinforce and use positive ones and collapse and get rid of negative ones.
We strongly suggest you begin to use smells (aroma therapy) and music to build positive emotional anchors. Anchors that can relax you or get you focused, or when you need it pump you up. In terms of daily practice, relaxation may be the most important use of anchoring for managing emotions. For students, it is being able to get into the learning state. Athletes want to be able to get into the flow state. Anchoring is the key. In the last two examples verbal and physical anchors, including breathing, are the type of anchors typically used. Use them. They are essential mindset training tools.
One powerful mindset training tool is learning to elicit your behavior strategies. Understanding how your brain creates a behavior is invaluable. For you to do a behavior your brain runs a program. It is very much like a computer program. There is a trigger (test), operation, a test, and an exit (T.O.T.E model). Many of the strategies we run are not the most efficient. In fact, many of the strategies we run get us the opposite result to what we want.
Let's look at a simple decision making strategy. There are different triggers that will trigger the strategy, but inevitably those triggers will be outside of you. They will be external. Imagine walking on a trail in a park and you come to a fork in the trail. You have seen something that triggers your decision making strategy. In this case it was something visual and external which would be written as V(e). At this point you may go internal and maybe you will ask yourself a question or maybe you will visualize the trail map you looked at back at the trail head. If your strategy is to visualize then you would write that as V(i). If it were to ask yourself a question or say something to yourself it would be written as A(i). The next step may be you generate reasons to go one way or the other and those reasons could be visual, auditory, or even kinesthetic (gut feeling). Then you may exit the strategy by making your decision.
This decision making strategy is a fairly simple and straight forward one. Decision making strategies can be different for different contexts but sometimes a person will have the same strategy for every context which makes it less efficient in some situations. Sometimes people have a decision making strategy that gets them stuck generating possibilities with no exit. They can't ever decide. Some people don't generate enough possibilities and decide too quickly. They are impulsive. Knowing your strategy for a behavior you are not pleased with will allow you to use other tools to interrupt that pattern or strategy and install either new steps or an entire new pattern. Often getting professional help is warranted. Below is a video that summarizes the strategy elicitation process that you can use to help you find your strategy for different behaviors.
Another of the mindset training tools is the reframe. One of the most simple examples of reframing is a verbal reframe. A verbal reframe is simply telling yourself an event means something else. There are sophisticated ways of doing this and it is usually done by one person to help another person find a different meaning. It isn’t as easy to do on your self although it can and comes from asking a simple question: what else could this event mean? Or why might Jane or John have said such a mean thing? Or similar question. Kenny Rogers song The Greatest has a beautiful example of a verbal reframe. It is a great song on many levels but the end is a beautiful reframe.